Tuesday, 27 September 2016

Why My Wife Divorced Me – Oyakhilome Finally Speaks On Divorce Drama

According to the Daily Post, Oyakhilome
described the allegations levelled against him
as “ crazy ” and “ stupid ” and urged his church
members to pray for his estranged wife while
speaking on Sunday evening during the
monthly global communion service of the
church.

Oyakhilome, who appeared visibly disturbed
during his first few minutes on stage ,
acknowledged that divorce is un- Biblical but
suggested he could consider the option should
his wife insist on it .
“ I heard that some media houses – especially in
Nigeria , are writing some things against me . All
sorts of frivolous charges , that ’s crazy .
“ You have to understand something about a
man of God . A man of God is not just someone
who worships God or preaches God. A man of
God is handpicked by God, set on course by
God. If you study the scriptures , you will not
find one man of God go against God, sinning
against God.
“ The only thing you might find will be a man of
God, maybe in two different kinds of ways.
Moses, for example , when he struck the rock
twice , he was provoked by the anger of the
people . It was not because he wanted to do
something against the Lord . No man of God
does something against the Lord .
“ Are you hearing me ? A man of God is set on a
course; there is a type of life that he is given.
Then you have a young man , a young prophet ;
he wasn ’ t named ; he was deceived by another
man of God and so he went in a direction that
God said ‘ don ’ t go ’ .
“ That is the only kind of thing you find about a
man of God when he misses the message of
God or he acts beyond what God said . But a
man of God settles himself in the fight against
the world… like those writing those stupid things
about me , that I did this and I did that.
“ You don ’ t know who a man of God is . I don ’t
go in that direction . I wasn ’t accused of the
things you said , nor did I commit those stupid
things that you said and I don ’ t need to go into
that level in such discussions” .
He recalled that Jesus passed through similar
travails and eventually overcame .
He said that although so many people were
making mockery of him , he would remain
steadfast and not lose focus .
“ Jesus Christ was accused by many– a lot of
frivolous charges . There will always be those
who would like for it to be true . But you know,
in spite of the accusations against Jesus, It
didn’ t change who he was . It didn ’t change him.
“ There are preachers and there are men of God.
I am not a preacher ; I am a man of God and I
go in the way I ’ m asked to go. It may cause
some troubles with individuals but that’ s not
because I have done something wrong and when
it comes to Reverend Anita, what I will say to
you is ‘ pray for her ’ .
“ Don ’ t act like those people . If you are married
to a man of God, it doesn ’ t make you
automatically mature . You can make mistakes ;
you can do something that is wrong . But some
people expect the wife of a minister to definitely
be at the level of that minister and so they may
be looked upon and the expectation may be like
that, but it’ s a positional thing.
“ If a man of God is married , it doesn ’t
automatically mean that the wife of a man of
God is therefore a woman of God. That’ s not the
way it is in the Bible. That’ s why you don ’ t really
find the wives of men of God mentioned in the
Bible. How many of them? Who was Peter ’ s wife,
did you ever know her name ? You never find
that out. Who was John’ s wife? Did you ever
read the name ? What about all the other
Apostles? How many of their names are written
in the Bible? You never find their names ” , he
added .
At this point , one of the female pastors sought
to know why the names of wives of the men
of God were not found in the Bible .
Oyakhilome’ s response was that she should
ask God whenever she finds him .
‘“Why ? You ask God when you find him. Ask
God when you find him” , he exclaimed .
“ So, they are little things; don ’t try to make
something big out of them. So when journeying,
doing the things that God called us to do,
Christians should not have a divorce ; it
shouldn’ t be , but you see, that doesn ’ t mean a
Christian may not take the step .
“ They may do it but they have to make things
right and we shouldn’ t take one another to
court . But when it happens , not that we don ’t
just want to go, it means someone is taking us
there.
“ That’ s a problem , but be wise and stay focused
in the word of God and don ’ t let those who want
to feast on things like this, including Christians …
“ There are Christians who like things like this;
they want to make something big out of this:
‘Yeah , yeah, yeah, we said it’ . You said what ?
Judge nothing before the time . Be wise . Glory
to God.
“ So we are not working in sin and living in sin
and hoping that we can mix sin and
righteousness together. We are the
manifestation of his righteousness. We walk in
that light only , and that’ s the way it ’s gonna be ” .
In April 2014, Anita Oyakhilome filed for
divorce at Central Family Court , High Holborn,
London , UK , citing her husband ’s
“ unreasonable behaviour” and inappropriate
relationships with members of staff , a
euphemism for “ adultery ” .
The couple have meanwhile decided to share
custody of their children. Sharon , the eldest ,
prefers Pastor Chris, while Charlene is
presently with Anita .